Updated: Nov 21, 2020
Women have been butchered and slaughtered for decades, for being .... a women! My mission is to set women free. To dis-connect them from their heritage of being supressed. Because whether women are aware of it or not; they are passing on their heritage to the next generation.
How many of you women are being rediculed by your spouse? By people at work? By people from church for the sake of religion? Just for being a woman? For being a woman who wants to live her dream life? I have coached and transformed many women during my twenty years of being a transformation coach. I've witnessed how women entered my practice. Completely broken down on all levels of their being. I've helped them recover from all the hatred that was sent to them, just for being a woman. Just for having ambitions.
I once heared a man say to his wife: 'you are such a big, fat, ugly pig. I can't even remember why I married you!'. The woman just bowed her head down and she sucked it up, keeping her silence. Because that's exactly what we have been programmed to do: bow down, don't speak your own truth. Don't you dare to have dreams of your own!
Why is it my mission to help women to travel to their liberation day? Because I once was one of those women who was being beaten, supressed and knocked down by my own family, by ex-partners, by people at work and yes, even by people who claim to be Christians. Why? Their behaviour towards me was based on nothing but fear. If people hurt you that bad, it means that they live with a fear that they can't live with themselves, so they chose to release all of their negativity, their inner crap on you. Because it's easy to bring down a woman, right? But what they don't know, women have an ancient talent of rising above all fear. At all times. Of rising above all pain. At all times. They are natural healers.
Now, I'm not one of those feminists who butchers men in general. Because heaven knows I am extremely blessed with my husband and my young son. They are the joy of my life. They are the reason for me to write this blog so I can reach women who need help. They are my big 'why' to get on stage and empower and encourage women to kick their buts out of their victim role and show them that there are other options in life! So, I celebrate the existence of men. Because there are so many men out there who are amazing to their wives. My husband treats me like I'm his queen. I love it. I honor it. And I treat him and my son as my biggest treasures in the world.
I meet so many women who want to start a business of their own. After all, I'm a business coach and I help women with setting up their dream job. And one of the first things most of them say when I ask them to invest their time, money and energy in setting up their own business is: 'I have to ask my husband'. Yes. It's 2017 and women still have to 'ask' their husband for permission to do what they dream of doing.
What are you going to ask your husband? If he can pretty please give you the bloody money? If he can give you the permission to go out there and do what you love? If he can please be a little supportive? Why is it women have to support their spouses when they want to make a career. But when they 'ask' the same thing back, they get: denial, rejection, no money. Yes, I hear women say: 'but I don't have money of my own'. Well guess what, honey: that is something you have allowed to happen. Because of that ridiculous heritage of having the need to be less than others. Why else is it so hard for women to receive compliments? Why else is it so hard to stand up and say: hey! This is my life! My dreams. My choices. My right to do whatever I love to do.
Asking your husband for permission is not the same as making him a part of your dreams and aspirations. If he mocks your dreams, your plans, let him know how hurtful that is. How would he feel if you would do the same to him? Let him know that you deserve his support. And that if he refuses to give it to you, girl, I don't want to meddle in your relationship. But if it were me, I would seriously consider reviewing my relationship. Set your standards. You do deserve support. Not a little bit. But to the fullest. And yes, women tell me that their husband is just being 'protective'. Is it really? Or is it just a great excuse for you not taking the steps to live your dream? Or is it a way of the husband to say: 'whatever it is that you want, it ain't gonna happen'.
I'm not one of those mothers who sacrifices her own happiness for her child. I don't want to teach my son how to sacrifice his dreams for another person. So I have to lead by example. It doesn't mean that I am neglecting him as a mother. It doesn't mean I am raising my son to be careless and selfish. It doesn't mean that I am a 'bad' mother. Because who defines whether you are a 'bad' or a 'good' mother? You do! So stop labeling yourself as a selfish little bitch, whenever you think about living your dreams. Your dream job, your dream.... anything! You have a right to dream. You have a right to make them come true. You have a right to be free of all the limiting beliefs from generations before you, from people around you and .... your own limiting beliefs. And people who try to knock you down along the way, have a right to remain silent.
Have you ever heared of Miss Hot Tamales? Who is she? What does she do?
She is a woman:
- who is n'sync with her dreams and aspirations
- who is in love with her body, mind and spirit
- who nurtures her temple (her body, mind and spirit)
- who uses her talents to the fullest to live her calling
- who stands up and says: I have a right to be free!
On March 25 I am giving a workshop about how to become your own version of Miss Hot Tamales. The workshop is in Singapore and is completely ... FREE of charge. There are VIP spots available. Information about the VIP seats will be announced soon. But when you register, you better be there. Because there are so many women who are waiting to get that spot. Ask a lady friend to join you. Registration will start soon. If you don't want to miss out, subscribe on our news letter to be the first to receive registration information. I only have limited spots for 50 women. First come, first serve.
You all have a Miss Hot Tamales inside of you. The workshop will just help you to unleash her to the fullest.
Event date: Saturday 25 March 2017 Registration: 12:00 Start workshop: 12:30 End workshop: 16:00
I'm looking forward to your Liberation!
* This blog is written from my perspective as a wife with an incredible husband. As a working mom entrepreneur. With my background of being supressed since I was young child. If you are homosexual, please read through the gender thing in my blog. It doesn't mean you can't relate to what I'm writing.