Remember the first day you met the love of your life? Butterflies invaded and controlled your life. You started to behave like teenagers. You couldn't sleep for weeks. Eating was not an option, because your mind was with your amazing new love 24/7. The weeks after the first date totally ruled your life; nothing else around you mattered. Romance seemed to be everywhere! Moving in together; a new phase of your romance. Maybe you were fortunate to have kids together. And after a few years of pancake breakfasts in your sweat pants, deep discussions on which brand of toilet paper is the best, and an army of kids constantly climbing in and out of our bed, some of the romance of the newly-wed stage has been pushed aside. If you'd like to get a little of that romance back, but don't have a ton of time for elaborate vacations or dates, try these eight mini-moves that will bring you closer to your honey and keep the spice in your relationship!
#1: Surprise them with something nice, just because
You don't need to wait for an excuse like a birthday or an anniversary to do something nice for your significant other. The kid in all of us loves a surprise and spurring something sweet on your honey out of the blue is a great affirmation of love. Wash his car, slip a gift card to her favorite store in her pocket, bake his all-time favorite cake, surprise her at work by dropping off a treat, or do one of his chores so he doesn't have to.
#2: Send a sexy text message
There's rarely time to talk during the day, but you can always shoot your sweetie a romantic text. You determine the rating, but a surprise text during the day can be just the ticket for spicing things up at home. You could start with, "How did I get so lucky to have you?" or "You are the best part of my day...can't wait to see you at home!" Then you could always spice it up from there. Let your imagination work like it did in the first weeks you just met!
#3: PDA...go ahead!
Somewhere between those carefree college days and the current parenting trenches, we've shied away from public displays of affection. Why? If you're not snuggling up to your wife or husband enough now, start! You don't have to be utterly gross and embarrassing, but when kids see their parents hugging, holding hands, and kissing, it sends a powerful message.
#4: Write a quick love note
Taking the time to slip a small note into your husband's lunchbox can completely brighten his day. Writing the five reasons you love your wife on her grocery list will make her totally happy. Promise. For something extra fun, use bath crayons to leave each other messages in the shower.
#5: Give an aphrodisiac message
After a long week, there's nothing better than a massage to unwind...and spice up your relationship. Essential oils make the perfect aromatherapy and aphrodisiac massage oil for a romantic night in. Add 2 tsp of carrier oil, like coconut oil, 4 drops of Ylang-Ylang, 2 drops of Clary Sage, 1 drop Bergamot, and 1 drop of Sandalwood. Combine them in a small glass bottle and you have your own Love Potion #9. You don't know where to get them Love Potion oils? Send me a message! I'll give 'em to you with a Love Struck discount of 25%!
#6: Date regularly
You're together all the time, isn't that enough? Not really. To maintain a strong relationship and keep the spark alive, all couples should set aside time to date. Picking up a prescription does not count as a date. A date is spending quality time with just the two of you...no children, pets, or relatives! Reserve your favorite baby sitter for the same night each month (like the second Saturday) so you always have a date night set aside. Take turns planning the date, picking a restaurant, or a movie. Put your phones away and just focus on each other.
#7: Dress up
I love sweats as much as the next person, but taking the time to dress up a little bit shows your significant other that you care--that you want to look nice for them. So put on your hot jeans...the ones that make your rear end look bangarang! Dab on a little lipstick. Spray that cologne that drives her wild, and you're sure to see results quick!
#8: Give your bedroom a romantic makeover
Let's be blunt: the bedroom is where all the magic happens. But when there are piles of dirty laundry and Dick Vitale's raspy voice droning on the television in the background, that magic is more of a fizzle than a Harry Potter Wingardium Leviosa! Help your romance take flight by making your bed each morning ( yes mother!), personalizing your space with pictures and memorabilia, making sure your bedroom is clear of mundane clutter, and adding some mood lighting like candles and soft lights.
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